saveyourtears's reviews
703 reviews

The insight into the mlm is really interesting. What it looked like and how she felt about it. She prefaces her story by saying she recognizes she has privelege but I don't think I was readdy for this amount of privilege. I think I appreciate this book mostly for showing me the life of someone so different from myself. 
The research though is really surface level. She quotes sources but they are often not academic ones (Cultish is quoted for example).
She mentions multiple times that she is a privileged white woman but she seems a bit disconnected about how that plays into her mlm story. She was a very bored house wife kinda regretting mom life with her five kids. She was also able to afford five kids on a single income, that is some serious money. She seems a bit in denial about how much of a leg up she had when she started. It's not just her whiteness, it's how rich she is, how rich the people she knows are and the way she carries herself, which is part whiteness and part more than that. She also seems to see underprivileged in extremes such as people in food desserts. But her life was (and is) unattainable for the vast majority of people. 
I also dislike her husband and her lack of critical thinking about gender roles before she is forced to reflect on it in the book. She mentions it but does not talk about the conversations she had about it with her husband and their solutions (at least I very much hope they solved these issues).

Heel interessant boek met veel mensen van verschillende leeftijden en achtergronden. Die andere levens geleid hebben en tegen unieke problemen aangelopen zijn. Ook de perspectieven op het transitie traject en wanneer en waarom die begonnen zijn waren heel interessant om te lezen. 

Mensen die dit boek gelezen hebben en meer willen lezen over de geschiedenis van trans mensen raad ik Transgender in Nederland van Alex Bakker aan.