Samantha Allen’s writing is raw and intense, but also funny when it needs to be. The backdrop of the political climate as it relates to queer people in the US to tell deeply personal stories drew me in and was such an important narrative. I do think certain things are more nuanced than their portrayal here, but also understand these things weren’t the purpose of the book, and only so much can fit on these pages. While at times, the book makes you feel hurt and disgusted, Samantha Allen’s writing and the way she shares these stories leaves you feeling hopeful at the possibility of queer communities in current political climates. I think a lot of people need to read this book, and I am glad it exists now in a time when queer and trans people are at so much risk of harm due to policymakers and bigots globally. There were so many great takeaways that I think many people need to read and think about. What I felt was one of the most important quotes, that was written early on, was: “[Learning about gender affirming care options] illuminated a path forward out of a life that felt unlivable.” 

I recommend this book to everyone, and think you’ll enjoy it if you liked: Moby Dyke; Gay Bar: Why We Went Out; or The Stone Wall Reader.