Those wanting more shape, direction, less Kundera discussions are missing the point. She puts her self and her worldview through the ringer in a totally unobvious way to achieve a momentary speck of clarity: “Doing psychoanalysis in Tehran has been about learning how to love. Lacan used to say: ‘To love is to give what you haven’t got.’ Which, in the words of Jacques-Alain Miller, means: To love is to recognize your lack and give it to the Other, to place it in the Other. It’s not giving what you possess, like gifts and presents; it’s giving something else that you don’t possess, which goes beyond you. To do that you have to assume your lack—your ‘castration’ as Freud used to say. DOING PSYCHOANALYSIS IN TEHRAN has been a lover’s discourse. I have been taught by every single patient, supervise, student, etc. TO GIVE WHAT I HAVEN’T GOT.” Hell yeah. To strive for the common unhappiness always, the hysteric condition!