I lowkey struggle with rating this book. It was incredibly thought provoking and fantastic to see such representation, and hear about lived experiences from ace people. 

However, I did think that it could have been cut down/edited some more. I found myself having to reread portions to sink into what the author was saying, and other moments felt repetitive at best and at worst redundant. 
I do see the need to overly explain things, particularly when addressing an allo target audience (although other times it felt like the audience was aces??) as you assume a blank slate of knowledge and aim to provide caveats to totally encapsulate meaning. Unfortunately it made this read more difficult to get through than I would like. 

But!!! I was presented with some new lenses to think through, and ways to think about life and relationships, and I did find that very compelling. 

TLDR; I would recommend to those interested in gender, sexuality and/or sociology as it presents some interesting discussions, but definitely be prepared for a drier read in some parts.