An incredibly validating read for those of us in the position of "meh" when it comes to the decision to have kids. I think it does a good job explaining why so many people in our generation are feeling so in the middle when it comes to that massive decision of whether or not to have kids and the panic of what might happen if we never get around to actually making a decision. There's some comfort for that panic and some reassurances on both sides of the argument in this book. I wish it provided more insight on why people WANT kids since I feel like it was written more in the defense of why people don't want kids, but ultimately I enjoyed the read.

The "To Be" chapter was astounding, but that literary analysis chapter was nonsense that I mostly skimmed through. I didn't want analysis of fictional takes on the ambivalence of having kids if I had most of those books on my TBR anyways.