This book is soooo good! It's a mix of essays and poetry, usually thematically linked, and often building on each other. Several of the essays are reprints from Xtra or other publications (often reworked), but the book is structured so that the ideas build on each other until you get this jewel of a finishing piece that makes the rest shine even brighter. I have it from the library, but think I'll buy it.

Thom deals with topics of abuse inside the activist community, suicide, purity culture, negotiating multiple identities, vanishing queer elders, representation in the media, whose stories matter. If all this is sounding familiar, it is, and her thoughts are really worth reading if you're feeling trapped and overwhelmed by activism and, say, fandom right now. The title of the book rings through the whole collection like a refrain.

It was absolutely what I needed to read just now.