A review by laynemandros
Nobody's Victim: Fighting Psychos, Stalkers, Pervs, and Trolls by Carrie Goldberg

5.0

⁣Review: Nobody’s Victim ⁣

“I know what it’s like to feel desperate and alone. A lot of us do. But we are nobody’s victims. To the Harvey Weinstein’s, Larry Nassars, and R. Kelly’s of the world, consider yourself on notice. To the victim-blaming, slut-shaming, chickenshit school administrators, cops, prosecutors, and judges, you’ve officially been warned. To all you dumbs tech titans and the venture capitalists who found the idiotic inventions that ruin our lives, you’re in our line of fire, too.” ⁣

Carrie Goldberg’s Nobody’s Victim is a slap in the face, look you square in the eyes, and show you the raw and ugly truth kind of book. She shys away from nothing in recounting her experiences of being a victim’s right’s lawyer and her own experiences of being a woman who also endured many of the things her clients had. This is an informative piece of work that really opened my eyes even further to the systematic oppression of women and how deep-rooted misogyny is woven into the history of everyday things we take for granted—like the internet. ⁣

What Carrie has to say about the development of the internet, the laws that govern it, and the accessibility from adults to teenagers was incredibly poignant. This was what scared me the most. The ways in which she details how victims are systematically blamed for being stalked, assaulted, bullied, and tormented via exchanges (consensual or nonconsensual) on the internet is truly horrific. ⁣

There is nothing that I can say except implore you to read it. Read it to understand, educate, empathize, to arm yourself with the information. I was rocked to my core and it brought me to tears several times. It is relevant, it is timely, it is so fucking important. Carrie Goldberg, you are my absolute hero. ⁣

★ ★ ★ ★ ★/5⁣

Trigger warning: sexual assault, rape of a minor, stalking, revenge porn.⁣