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A review by beate251
Confessions of a Virgin on a Dating App by Sydney Wilder
emotional
hopeful
informative
inspiring
medium-paced
- Plot- or character-driven? A mix
- Strong character development? Yes
- Loveable characters? Yes
- Diverse cast of characters? No
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
4.5
Thank you to NetGalley and Victory Editing for this ARC.
Avery was brought up in a strictly religious American household which has damaged her sexual wellbeing. When she tries to lose her virginity to her boyfriend in the dorm of her uptight Christian college she discovers not only that it hurts beyond belief but also that it gets her kicked out of college while nothing bad happens to her boyfriend's reputation, who promptly dumps her.
Five years later she has made a life for herself in Orlando, Florida and has a book editing job, a flatmate and friends in the gaming community, including Devin, the tattooed owner of the gaming shop. However, her attempts at online dating fail miserably due to the old problem - sex and periods hurt and she doesn't know why.
This is a very unusual book in that it tackles women's health and sexual problems head on. I couldn't relate to the religious bigotry but I've overcome vaginismus myself and know the struggle with the dreaded dilators. I also know you must be honest with a potential partner from the outset - the right man will stay.
In the light of Avery's upbringing I understood her naivety regarding sexual matters but only to an extent - not to have heard of a clitoris or endometriosis nor know how to deal correctly with a small bullet vibrator at the age of 27 when you live in the modern world felt alien to me. It made me sad when she called herself broken and a monster.
I'm not a gamer so the descriptions of the multi-player tabletop games events were like a foreign language to me and there was definitely too much mention of it, but I liked the community and friendships they gave Avery. Avery has found her family after her own is such a disappointment.
The title though - really? A book of that quality really needs a classier title, one that represents the content in a way that isn't out for cheap laughs or thrills.
The romance, however, is lovely. Devin is such a great, supportive character, despite or because of his own struggles with mental health. He is instrumental in persuading Avery to overcome her self-loathing and finally stand up for herself and start believing that she is a normal person with a couple of medical problems that can be cured or at least treated.
This is a surprisingly easy, light-hearted read, despite some of the topics. It's brilliantly written and I couldn't put it down. I'm so glad women's sexual health is finally getting more of the spotlight - it's about time. There is a lot of sexual content in this book but as little as I usually like spice in a romance, here I was cheering on Avery to finally get her groove on!
Avery was brought up in a strictly religious American household which has damaged her sexual wellbeing. When she tries to lose her virginity to her boyfriend in the dorm of her uptight Christian college she discovers not only that it hurts beyond belief but also that it gets her kicked out of college while nothing bad happens to her boyfriend's reputation, who promptly dumps her.
Five years later she has made a life for herself in Orlando, Florida and has a book editing job, a flatmate and friends in the gaming community, including Devin, the tattooed owner of the gaming shop. However, her attempts at online dating fail miserably due to the old problem - sex and periods hurt and she doesn't know why.
This is a very unusual book in that it tackles women's health and sexual problems head on. I couldn't relate to the religious bigotry but I've overcome vaginismus myself and know the struggle with the dreaded dilators. I also know you must be honest with a potential partner from the outset - the right man will stay.
In the light of Avery's upbringing I understood her naivety regarding sexual matters but only to an extent - not to have heard of a clitoris or endometriosis nor know how to deal correctly with a small bullet vibrator at the age of 27 when you live in the modern world felt alien to me. It made me sad when she called herself broken and a monster.
I'm not a gamer so the descriptions of the multi-player tabletop games events were like a foreign language to me and there was definitely too much mention of it, but I liked the community and friendships they gave Avery. Avery has found her family after her own is such a disappointment.
The title though - really? A book of that quality really needs a classier title, one that represents the content in a way that isn't out for cheap laughs or thrills.
The romance, however, is lovely. Devin is such a great, supportive character, despite or because of his own struggles with mental health. He is instrumental in persuading Avery to overcome her self-loathing and finally stand up for herself and start believing that she is a normal person with a couple of medical problems that can be cured or at least treated.
This is a surprisingly easy, light-hearted read, despite some of the topics. It's brilliantly written and I couldn't put it down. I'm so glad women's sexual health is finally getting more of the spotlight - it's about time. There is a lot of sexual content in this book but as little as I usually like spice in a romance, here I was cheering on Avery to finally get her groove on!
Graphic: Chronic illness, Sexual content, and Religious bigotry
Moderate: Alcoholism, Drug use, Self harm, Sexual assault, Medical content, and Stalking
Minor: Miscarriage