This book will give you a few concrete steps to take in a relationship to build a more solid foundation. Trying the suggestions in this book would be a good exercise with or before couples counseling. Worth a read as it’s super quick and flows as a conversation. Lots of major keys on acceptance & commitment. The power of saying what you mean and meaning what you say. Relationships without mind reading.

What I really did not like was the vilifying of emotions. I think it is an overcorrection of recent zeitgeist to “trust your gut” above everything. Neither are ideal- we function well when we are in a balance of both. Humans ultimately make decisions with their emotions, and I feel this book would have been better framed by focusing on long-term emotional success instead of putting logic & commitment v. Emotions. What he truly gets at is the idea that emotions aren’t to be impulsively and hedonistically acted on at all times.

This book seems to shit on non-monogamy which is unnecessary imo.