This is one of those books that feels like it deserves a better review than I can give it. A deeply personal memoir about domestic abuse in a lesbian relationship, it’s far outside my own experience. As well as being intimate, it feels very well considered and researched. The author draws on other texts, but also quite brilliantly on universally recognised (or at least familiar) cultural references to give more impact to her points. 
I found it moving, insightful, important and very very readable. 
The book’s dedication states “If you need this book, it is for you”. I didn’t need it, but I’m very glad I read it. I’m struck by the fact that it’s a book that has been banned/challenged in US schools/libraries (I read it for a banned books challenge). This kind of censorship is almost always about closing down the very idea of ways of existing that are different to those of the people doing the banning. This feels like a book that some people really would need, which makes trying to hide it away even crueller.