If you’ve ever been a first (like a first-gen college student, like me) or an only (like being the only person of color in your class or at your job), so many parts of this book will resonate with you. If not, there’s a lot you can learn about what it’s like to be first gen or first and only from Alejandra’s experiences. She writes with honesty and openness, painting a picture of a woman self-actualized enough to reflect critically on how her past has shaped her while also showing the reader she’s also still growing. She does a great job breaking down the impact of generational poverty and trauma, all the background and struggle and faking-it-till-you -make-it that we often don’t shine a light on when we hold up the stories of first and only’s who have “made it”. She also writes so well about social mobility, and about the tension of not fitting in to your family or “old life” while also not feeling like you belong in your new one. Highly recommend.