Angela Chen is a Scientist who started looking at a sexuality as a means to understand herself, and then later on society and connections. In this short book, she interviews 100 Intersectional Aces who also share her curiosities.

"The map is not the same as territory"
I have learnt a lot from the generous sharing of the interviewees. From sex-repulsed responses, to considering the allosexual society, how the Kinsey scale has been disproven,

Chen writes with compassion and curiosity, there is a gentleness to the interviews and it has made me also think about what I assume are simular/same concepts, e.g. attraction & sexual. How negative sexuality can be co-presented with compulsive sexuality.

"Political radicalism and sexuality seems to make sense"
There is such power within sexuality and sex. Sex has become a commodities and source of manipulation. There are plenty of naunces to explore around the preconceived links between Ethnicity and Aces, the medicalisation of sexuality, the language used to name and share experiences.

The chapter on "good enough reason" is a standout chapter for me, as I considered the spectrum of willinesness, consent and hermeneutical injustice.

Overall, this was a surprisingly tender read and I recommend anyone who is curious about human relationships to read and reflect on.