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Together: A Memoir of a Marriage and a Medical Mishap by Judy Goldman
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4.4 stars
This is an excellent memoir. I f0und myself really empathizing with Judy. She is such a strong woman, starting with how she called off the wedding to someone who she really didn't love so close to the actual wedding taking place.
Most of the memoir focused on her husband Henry's epidural for spinal pain that caused his lasting paralysis and how that affected their marriage and lives. So very heartbreaking.
While it is traumatic to happen at any age, I wonder if it's a bit easier that it happens in your 60s and after 40ish years of marriage rather than in your teen/20s and just got married? Still, it completely changes the dynamics of a relationship with yourself and others as well as the entire family.
It's difficult to not compare people's reactions to things like this. I know many people whose first inclination would be to sue. If one lawyer wouldn't take the case, they'd go through a long list to find someone who would. It's interesting how that wasn't the Goldmans' first inclination or even their second. How they merely wanted the physiatrist (who knew that was an occupation?!) to empathize and apologize.
This is an excellent memoir. I f0und myself really empathizing with Judy. She is such a strong woman, starting with how she called off the wedding to someone who she really didn't love so close to the actual wedding taking place.
Most of the memoir focused on her husband Henry's epidural for spinal pain that caused his lasting paralysis and how that affected their marriage and lives. So very heartbreaking.
While it is traumatic to happen at any age, I wonder if it's a bit easier that it happens in your 60s and after 40ish years of marriage rather than in your teen/20s and just got married? Still, it completely changes the dynamics of a relationship with yourself and others as well as the entire family.
It's difficult to not compare people's reactions to things like this. I know many people whose first inclination would be to sue. If one lawyer wouldn't take the case, they'd go through a long list to find someone who would. It's interesting how that wasn't the Goldmans' first inclination or even their second. How they merely wanted the physiatrist (who knew that was an occupation?!) to empathize and apologize.