Exceptional, honest, affecting compilation of essays about the cumulative trauma, apprehension and fear a corroded idea of masculinity, the perpetuity of misogyny, unleashes on women, trans and gender-conforming people throughout different encounters with cis men. I'm afraid of men, too, and like Mx. Shraya it's not because I have been specifically brutalized in some way, it's these “little” things accumulated in different interactions since childhood that we have been taught to dismiss or be pleased with that make my relationship with men so anxiety inducing. This book is so revelatory and personal because as different as the journeys trans women experience are, our femininity, and subsequent misogyny, is the thread holding us together. I related so much with some things Mx. Shraya sadly encountered with men, and at the same time my heart ached when she tells us that she's afraid of women, too, because whether it is because of internalized misogyny, transphobia, or simple man pleasing acts, some cis women fail to be sisters, a friendly hand, a needed backup to trans women when they need it most. I have to commend how Mx. Shraya opened up about/disclosed her own problematic instances of male entitlement of women or girls' bodies and how even she couldn't escape the toxic masculinity upbringing. Truly stunning book that deserves to be read and read again.