Somehow, Judy Goldman wrapped the story of a medical mistake into a beautiful memoir about her marriage and how love can change you.
Savor the development of Judy and Henry's marriage, the arc of changes that come with children, careers, culture, age. Listen to them assert themselves and support each other. Look at the easy way they have with each other. Marvel at their big fights and at the fact they never say the word “divorce,” no matter what.
Despite the major medical mishap that has partially paralyzed Henry, this is a story of compromise, and part of that word is promise. They made a promise to each other, for better or worse.
Judy is saying, hey, we got this far, what’s a little paralysis along the way. At the same time, she’s furious, frightened and sure/unsure all the time. Should she be tough or quiet? Does she fight or listen? And look at Henry, not talking, not dominating, sitting or lying back, lost in his own thoughts, focused inwardly.
This memoir becomes a testament to what people who love each other can accomplish. How they can face the world with heads up and fears sorted. You owe it to your marriage to read it.
Full review at https://www.salisburypost.com/2019/02/03/in-together-judy-goldman-considers-trauma-and-love/