I have been working on being gentler for the past 2 years now and just needed a little refresher course to ensure I'm staying on the right path to bring my children up to be the best humans they can be for this world. Gentle does NOT mean permissive. I DO say "No" and there ARE boundaries. The title "Gentle Parenting" is very misleading as it does have structure and discipline (not punishment). How can we expect children to think for themselves or stand up for themselves if they are raised only to obey? They have thoughts and feelings, just like adults and if they don't feel heard, how can they grow to be empathetic towards others and mentally & emotionally stable?