I thoroughly enjoyed this book.  It's an unapologetic push back on the cult of thriving in our culture, you know the one where any adversity is meant to be met with positive thinking!  And how "everything happens for a reason" and how you will personally rise above any challenge and be the better for it!

This book resinserts a justice-narrative to this toxic positivity, reminding readers that ignoring the social and oppressive roots of inequalities in favour of the supremacy of the individual does not make for a better society, it makes for unhappy individuals and a broken society.

If we see resilience as residing in communities as opposed to individuals, it reminds us not to look to the person who is suffering to solve their own problems, but to look to the supports both personal and structural that can make their lives, and therefore everyone's life, better.  Consider the difference between a woman leaving an abusive relationship if she is meant to rise above this and see it as all her problem, to find new employment, to catch up on perhaps lacking education, to chart her own path, versus if she is meant to be supported in a circumstance that doesn't affect every woman but could affect any woman: how do we structurally support her to have the best odds of succeeding?  How would we implement child care, education, and legal supports to help her do well?

I thought this book was very accessible and interesting, pertinent and hopeful.

I did think some references (to missiles being phallic, etc) were a bit odd.

But overall, this is a solid read and inspiring to call out the cult of resilience that is troublesome to women and historically oppressed groups whether due to race, sexual orientation, or belief, but also to people who happen to end up in a difficult circumstance such as illness, disability or family tragedy.