Scan barcode
grumpyreading's review against another edition
emotional
funny
inspiring
reflective
medium-paced
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? Yes
- Loveable characters? Yes
- Diverse cast of characters? Yes
- Flaws of characters a main focus? It's complicated
5.0
📚 Review: Holy fuck. This book was absolutely stunning. By page 37, I had cried and laughed out loud multiple times, and had written down 7 quotes and had taken multiple photos of full pages of beautiful writing. I literally cried and laughed out loud through this entire book, and was an absolute mess at the end. In the middle of the night after finishing it, I woke up and thought about it and cried. This book explores themes of grief and loss and the anticipation of these, and what it means to love and the hurt that comes with it. It also talks about what it means to be a parent, and to love your children as they grow. Though I’m not a parent, I absolutely sobbed at this, and about thinking about my mom (how dare I move out and grow up, honestly), and how much love can hurt. The way she used sandwiches to talk about the ways in which Rocky knows her family members so deeply - how different they are, how similar, what their preferences say about who they are - was so beautiful. Something so mundane that drew on the theme of the emotional work many mothers do in tending to their families was so central to this book. The writing was STUNNING, and I loved this book. Catherine Newman writes “It’s just plain life, beautiful in its familiar subtlety, its decency and dailiness.”, and I feel like that’s what this book was. That, and so much more.
There are so many beautiful quotes I wrote down while reading - I’m including them below.
đź’« Rating: 6/5. This very quickly became one of my favourite books of all time.
QUOTES:
“It’s so crushingly beautiful, being human,” the mother sighs, and the daughter rolls her eyes and says, “But also so terrible and ridiculous.”
“What does loss look like, in your body? Where is it? It feels like an air bubble stuck in your psyche. It feels like peering down into a deep hole. The vertigo of that. The potential for obliteration. It’s in your stomach. Your spleen. Or it’s just your heart losing its mind.”
“It’s too beautiful to bear — and too much to be worthy of.”
“What, exactly, are we doing here? Why do we love everyone so recklessly and then break our own hearts? And they don’t even break. They just swell, impossibly, with more love.”
“It’s almost painful, the way little children just trustingly hold out their hearts for you to look at - the way they haven’t learned yet how to conceal what matters to them, even if it’s just chewing gum or a plush dolphin or plastic binoculars.”
“Grief bright in the periphery, like a light flashing just out of view.” - literally cried immediately when I read this line
“There is so much more I want to ask him. About the texture of grief in the household of his childhood.”
“But grief was like a silver locket with two faces in it. I didn’t know what the faces looked like, but it was heavy around my neck, and I never took it off.”
“I would pick this life too, I know. I’d even pick the way that pain has burnished me to brightness. The pain itself, though? I imagine I’d give it up if I could.”
“I’ve heard grief described as love with nowhere to go. To be honest, though, I sometimes feel like love is that already.”
“Maybe grief is love imploding. Or maybe it’s love expanding. I don’t know. I just know you can’t create loss to preempt loss because it doesn’t work that way. So you might as well love as much as you can. And as recklessly. Like it’s your last resort, because it is.”
“And we’ll be as young and as whole as we’re ever going to be.”
“A transition is so much gentler than an ending.”
“… and what she told me was that I didn’t need to draw so many conclusions, to make so many decisions. That I could just live with all the different parts of life as they were. That I could be happy even though nothing would ever be perfect.”
“It’s just plain life, beautiful in its familiar subtlety, its decency and dailiness.”
“Imagine trying to make that color yellow just from the soil and sunlight,” Willa said. She was leaning against my father, who was smiling and frowning and dabbing at his face with a handkerchief. “Like, if someone was like, here’s a bowl of dirt. Make two perfect shades of the brightest yellow you ever saw! You totally couldn’t do it.” We agreed that this was true. “So what is that? I mean, I know it’s nature. Photosynthesis. Adaptation. But is it magic too?” We thought that maybe it was.
“Imagine trying to make that color yellow just from the soil and sunlight,” Willa said. She was leaning against my father, who was smiling and frowning and dabbing at his face with a handkerchief. “Like, if someone was like, here’s a bowl of dirt. Make two perfect shades of the brightest yellow you ever saw! You totally couldn’t do it.” We agreed that this was true. “So what is that? I mean, I know it’s nature. Photosynthesis. Adaptation. But is it magic too?” We thought that maybe it was.
Content Warnings
Graphic: Death, Infertility, Miscarriage, Grief, Abortion, Death of parent, and Pregnancy
Minor: Body horror, Cancer, Drug use, Mental illness, Sexual content, Blood, Medical content, and Alcohol
kbeaunen's review against another edition
3.75
Content Warnings
Moderate: Miscarriage, Grief, and Abortion
flibrtjibt's review against another edition
emotional
funny
hopeful
reflective
relaxing
medium-paced
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? Yes
- Loveable characters? Yes
- Diverse cast of characters? No
- Flaws of characters a main focus? It's complicated
3.75
Not enough out there that is truly reflective of GenX in the 21st century. It is well written, rich with relatable mature content.
Content Warnings
Moderate: Miscarriage, Grief, Abortion, and Pregnancy
clanceypants's review against another edition
emotional
funny
reflective
medium-paced
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? Yes
- Loveable characters? Yes
- Diverse cast of characters? No
- Flaws of characters a main focus? It's complicated
5.0
Content Warnings
Graphic: Miscarriage and Abortion
Moderate: Grief
Minor: Infertility, Medical trauma, and Death of parent
justducky_12's review against another edition
emotional
funny
hopeful
reflective
medium-paced
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? Yes
- Loveable characters? Yes
- Diverse cast of characters? Yes
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
4.0
Content Warnings
Graphic: Mental illness, Miscarriage, Grief, Abortion, and Death of parent
kennaadolph's review against another edition
emotional
funny
inspiring
lighthearted
reflective
fast-paced
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? Yes
- Loveable characters? Yes
- Diverse cast of characters? Yes
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
4.5
Content Warnings
Graphic: Miscarriage and Abortion
Moderate: Mental illness, Grief, Death of parent, and Pregnancy
syreetam's review against another edition
emotional
funny
reflective
sad
medium-paced
- Plot- or character-driven? A mix
- Strong character development? Yes
- Loveable characters? Yes
- Diverse cast of characters? Yes
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
4.0
Content Warnings
Moderate: Miscarriage and Abortion
Minor: Genocide, Grief, and Death of parent
kmesser's review against another edition
emotional
funny
reflective
slow-paced
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? Yes
- Loveable characters? Yes
- Diverse cast of characters? No
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
5.0
I haven’t cried this hard at the mercy of a book in a long while. A story about a woman, Rocky, in the “sandwich” generation, mothering children in their 20s while also watching her parents age in their 70s/80s. Wry, realistic, and heartbreaking I adored this.
Content Warnings
Graphic: Miscarriage, Grief, Abortion, and Death of parent
hellokaley's review against another edition
emotional
funny
reflective
medium-paced
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? No
- Loveable characters? Yes
- Diverse cast of characters? No
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
5.0
Wow, I don’t know if I read this book at the perfect time to fall in love with it, but it really hit me in the feels! The perspective and characters were so lovely and even when they were fighting or pushing each other, you could feel the love and care they had for one another. I really loved how the story was written- the casualness of the main character made it feel like she was speaking to me. The banter with the mother, her husband, her children, and her own parents was so delightful and it really made me fall in love with them as a family. The Cape Cod scene was such a perfect setting and the descriptions of the location, food, smells, and feels made it feel like I was there.
There are definitely content warnings here and it’s quite possible that a more conservative reader would not like this as much as I did- I imagine this is why it has some low reviews as well.
Overall, it was short (I read in one sitting on a plane), emotional, and delightful. There were so many quotes that resonated with me and I’ll be thinking about it for a while.
There are definitely content warnings here and it’s quite possible that a more conservative reader would not like this as much as I did- I imagine this is why it has some low reviews as well.
Overall, it was short (I read in one sitting on a plane), emotional, and delightful. There were so many quotes that resonated with me and I’ll be thinking about it for a while.
Content Warnings
Graphic: Mental illness, Miscarriage, and Abortion
Moderate: Grief and Death of parent
Minor: Genocide and Vomit
ericamayshort's review against another edition
dark
emotional
reflective
sad
medium-paced
Content Warnings
Graphic: Miscarriage, Grief, and Pregnancy