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The Memory of Love by Aminatta Forna

pebbles1984's review

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2.0

This must have been the slowest book I've ever read. It took me exactly 1 month to read the 450 pages. For the first 70% I was just waiting for something to happen, then in the last 30% it picked up slightly, but still there were so many pages that I just found boring and had to force my way through. I have to admit I started skimming in the last third, reading a couple of sentences per page properly, and I was still able to follow all of it, so that says something. The reason I finished it is that it took me a long time to decide whether to continue or abandon, and by the time I decided on the latter I was so far in (56%) and already put so much effort in, that it felt like a waste of invested time if I did not finish.

I want to make clear though that this is my experience and I think the reasons it was so slow for me were the writing, the fact that nothing happened, and the lack of connection to the characters. However, I do think that objectively speaking this is not a bad book and I can imagine people giving it higher ratings. That, and the fact that I did finish, makes me give it 2 stars, even though the reading experience itself was more like 1.

tcm_62's review against another edition

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5.0

A brilliant, intriguing, character-driven novel, Persevere with the beginning until the connections between the characters become clear. The hope-filled ending is very satisfying after the darker exploration of the devastating consequences of civil war within.

A novel to return to again.

elsayles's review

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dark inspiring medium-paced
  • Plot- or character-driven? Character
  • Strong character development? Yes
  • Loveable characters? It's complicated
  • Diverse cast of characters? Yes
  • Flaws of characters a main focus? It's complicated

4.0

Sierra Leone aftermath but also good details on international impact, pre conflict, and characters

brew_and_books's review

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5.0

My chance encounters with books have been the best this year. I stumbled upon this in the library, and the cover had me, and then the blurb, and thank god I picked this up. I had never heard of the book or the author, so this book coming up as remarkably astounding and the best has been nothing but the sweetest reading surprise for me.

I am so over joyous about reading such a brilliant book and yet so out of words. I need to learn how to surmise it, but I will give a meek attempt at it (and terribly fail). Broadly concerning four individuals, 'The Memory of Love' steers through the life stories of these utmost real, flawed characters set in Sierra Leone against the backdrop of the civil war. It wraps around many more characters in its course and sets through the deep caverns of complex emotions and the human psyche that feels both astounding and unfeigned. The story smoothly interplays between two timelines (during and after the war) around different characters, and it does so phenomenally well; I was equally invested in all the stories, timelines, and people (which is a rarity for me). The story glides through time and people effortlessly giving justice to everything needed, progressing through hope and longing to the pitfalls of renunciation and resignation, all too well.
In my initial experience, what felt like a war novel became so much more. I have read my share of war books, but this one, by far, is the best. It's about the people not directly fighting the war but deeply affected by the same: their love and loss, their struggle and scuffle for existence, duplicity and loyalty in relationships, mental health issues, and PTSD. It's about my best read of this year! A million times and over for books like these <333

zoemjimenez18's review

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dark emotional reflective sad slow-paced
  • Plot- or character-driven? Character
  • Strong character development? Yes
  • Loveable characters? Yes
  • Diverse cast of characters? Yes
  • Flaws of characters a main focus? It's complicated

4.0

Forna unravels a world damned to silent suffering that is only expressed through crippling nightmares fueled by the memories of love lost to war. Love, both familial and romantic is the subject of punishment for the political and social sins of each character. Love, meant to be the key to longevity, is lost to alternate modes of survival that challenge each character’s values and moral convictions. The aftermath of lost love leaves three men wandering in Sierra Leone’s red dust of loneliness and trauma, left to reckon with their own coping mechanisms which function for better or worse. 

Despite, Adrian’s initial thoughtless expatriation to Freetown, his love for his friends in his new home and empathy for each patient saves my own empathy for him. In the end, his ability to allow love to shift his perspective to the likeness of his African peers is also what allows the story to unfold and come to a conclusion. While at first I was unwilling to compare myself to Adrian, I had to accept that my lack of historical context and western upbringing allowed me to use Adrian as a vessel for challenging my own opinion of each Freetown character’s foreign temperaments and methods of emotional perseverance.

Adrian’s startling realization of the common fault in historical recordings is quite ironic given the long history of British rewriting of history apropos non-Western regions of the globe. This is due to the authoritative intentions of imperialist historical narration and the blunt ignorance of the traditions, customs and attitudes of the people in historical subject. Overall Forna’s political and philosophical commentary on the question of “who writes history” should be universally applied and should be remembered in every instance of governmental authority (no matter it be , decentralized, centralized, or  internationally unrecognized). 

Motifs of verdant gardens express the flourishing beauty of a country who can hope to progress yet later act as pitiful reminders of how, within half a generation, the gardens of hope can become overrun with the weeds and pestilence of silent submission to evil. The beautiful moments of intimacy between the latter love triangle boast the highest form of spiritual respite in between pages of psychological torment and descriptions of national destruction. This is illustrated by Forna’s Lucious scenes of lovemaking describing the profound fulfillment in being impossibly close to one’s lover. These memories of lovemaking were said to be repressed by Kai for the past year, presumably leading to his longing for platonic love in Tejani and his growing desire to increase his physical proximity to his once estranged friend. Present moments of lovemaking are so ripe within the later end of  Adrian’s  journey are so powerful they remove him entirely from the memories of his haunting responsibilities in London. 

My enjoyment of the novel primarily stems from learning to understand a world so different from mine. Simultaneously, I am able to connect to each story through the universal feelings of yearning, nostalgia, and regret all which are counterbalanced by sex, conception, and accepting one’s reality. These are all forms of love and all forms of love we may experience at one time or another. 

The challenges of reading this novel lie in the nebulous contextualizatjon of setting. While the more aesthetic  descriptions were quite satisfying, I felt lost when trying to reconcile the time period and location. This was also an issue when realizing Adrian was not a black man from England but a white man much later in the novel than I’d like to admit. This could have been a result if glazing over information early in the novel. Similarly, I understood the country’s setting only due to a book review I had previously read. Perhaps, this is an entitled ask and I could have done a bit more background research before reading rather than at disparate moments throughout the book.  

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lindy_b's review

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2.0

Make a list of every stereotype about literary fiction and this book will represent over half of them.

Also, it's 445 pages long, and most of them contain at least one paragraph like this:
Later he showers. Standing beneath the spout of water, he has the urge to urinate. He stands at the edge of the tiled shower cubicle and aims at the toilet bowl. Success brings with it his first sense of achievement of the day. (p 46)

mandyherbet's review

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5.0

I struggled to get into this one, probably because I read it on my kindle and it was a bookclub selection, so I didn't have the blurb to go by. I struggled to get a sense of where the story was set and who the narrator - and later, narrators - were. So I grumbled but kept reading, promising myself that I could read something else once I was finished.

And then I hit my stride! Wow, three narrators - Elias Cole, Adrian, and Kai - all tell the story of Sierra Leone and the lives of those left behind, those who choose to leave, and those who choose to stay. It's a story of courage - the courage of your convictions and the lies you tell to alleviate your guilt. I found myself gasping at some of the twists and especially the ending and I almost need more time to digest it all.

It's a powerful story and I can't wait to discuss it at the next bookclub meeting!

amakaazie's review

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3.0

Difficult to read. Very slow progression of the story with focus on unnecessary details. The only thing i enjoyed was the cultural exposure to Sierra Leone.

hunterreads's review against another edition

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adventurous dark slow-paced
  • Plot- or character-driven? Character
  • Strong character development? Yes
  • Loveable characters? No
  • Diverse cast of characters? Yes
  • Flaws of characters a main focus? It's complicated

3.0

ndavis's review

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dark emotional mysterious slow-paced

3.0